by Pam Blizzard, Lyschel Burket, Bonny Burns
For wives enduring the pain of sexual betrayal. Conversations that acknowledge the devastation of sexual betrayal through pornography addictions, unwanted sexual behaviors, and infidelity while offering practical insight and hope for healing through a Christian lens. Equips wives to see the next steps in their recovery, and find hope in the mess of this situation. New episodes release every 2 weeks! Find additional resources at hopeforwives.com.
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June 11, 2024
<h2>With your co-hostesses:</h2> <p>Pam Blizzard from <a href="https://recoveredpeace.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">RecoveredPeace.com</a><br /> Lyschel Burket from <a href="https://hoperedefined.org/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">HopeRedefined.org</a><br /> Bonny Burns from <a href="http://strongwives.com/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">StrongWives.com</a></p> <h2><span style="font-size: 18pt;"><a href= "https://hopeforwives.com/donate/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener"><strong>Help Us Help Others</strong></a></span></h2> <h2>Listen now:</h2> <p>Lyschel and Pam had other obligations, so I, Bonny will be speaking with a special guest today – Dr. Barb Steffens!</p> <p>Barb is the retired founder of the association of partners of sex addicts trauma specialists, or APSATS. APSATS was a response to her empirically supported work that betrayed partners are traumatized by the discovery of their spouses problematic sexual behavior and should be supported through the lens of trauma, not co-dependence. Barb now focuses on helping better equip religious leaders to care for marriages that are struggling through the discovery of problematic sexual behavior.</p> <p>Today, our topic is “How Religious Leaders Can Serve Betrayed Couples Well.”</p> <h2>We Will be Discussing:</h2> <ol> <li>What is institutional trauma or institutional betrayal?</li> <li>What are some things that religious leaders could do to minimize spiritual trauma when they are working with a marriage that has deceptive sexuality?</li> <li>What are some obstacles that keep religious leaders from following up with a couple where the wife has newly discovered sexually problematic behavior?</li> <li>What are some resources that religious leaders could tap into to learn more?</li> <li>What hope can we leave our listeners?</li> </ol> <h2>Resources mentioned in this show:</h2> <div id="wpv-view-layout-308-TCPID1159" class= "js-wpv-view-layout js-wpv-layout-responsive js-wpv-view-layout-308-TCPID1159" data-viewnumber="308-TCPID1159" data-pagination= "{"id":"308","query":"normal","type":"disabled","effect":"fade","duration":500,"speed":5,"pause_on_hover":"disabled","stop_rollover":"false","cache_pages":"enabled","preload_images":"enabled","preload_pages":"enabled","preload_reach":1,"spinner":"builtin","spinner_image":"https://hopeforwives.com/wp-content/plugins/wp-views/embedded/res/img/ajax-loader.gif","callback_next":"","manage_history":"enabled","has_controls_in_form":"disabled","infinite_tolerance":"0","max_pages":0,"page":1,"base_permalink":"/?p=1159&preview=true&wpv_view_count=308-TCPID1159&wpv_paged=WPV_PAGE_NUM","loop":{"type":"","name":"","data":[],"id":0}}" data-permalink= "/?p=1159&preview=true&wpv_view_count=308-TCPID1159"> <ul class="wpv-loop js-wpv-loop"> <li> <p>“<a href="https://amzn.to/3RJMGkf" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal</a>,” by Dr. Barb Steffens and Marsha Means.</p> </li> </ul> <ul class="wpv-loop js-wpv-loop"> <li> <p class="c-article-title" data-test="article-title"><a href= "https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12119-024-10221-3" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Why did God let this Happen? Assessing the Spiritual Impacts of Sexual Addiction on Intimate Female Partners: A Qualitative Investigation</a></p> </li> </ul> <ul class="wpv-loop js-wpv-loop"> <li> <p><a href= "https://www.apsats.org/APSATS/training/upcoming-btrl-dates#!event-list" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training Information (July, 2024, dates)</a></p> </li> </ul> <ul class="wpv-loop js-wpv-loop"> <li> <p class="a-spacing-none a-text-normal"><a href= "https://amzn.to/4cg2NO0" target="_blank" rel="noopener"><span id= "productTitle" class="a-size-large celwidget" data-csa-c-id= "eryncd-6xxxe7-lpjz0-ruyuwx" data-cel-widget="productTitle">“The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong about Pornography and How to Fix It,” By Sam Black.</span></a></p> </li> </ul> <ul class="wpv-loop js-wpv-loop"> <li> <p>“<a href="https://amzn.to/3yWfTBI" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">Suffering and the Heart of God: How Trauma Destroys and Christ Restores</a>,” by Dr. Diane Langberg.</p> <p>Coming November, 2024 – “<span id="productTitle" class= "a-size-large celwidget" data-csa-c-id= "7not9x-o0z4pt-s8k85t-x05oxg" data-cel-widget= "productTitle"><a href="https://amzn.to/4egKeLu" target="_blank" rel="noopener">When the Church Harms God’s People: Becoming Faith Communities That Resist Abuse, Pursue Truth, and Care for the Wounded</a>,” by Dr. Diane Langberg.</span></p> </li> </ul> </div>
June 4, 2024
<h2>With your co-hostesses:</h2> <p>Pam Blizzard from <a href="https://recoveredpeace.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">RecoveredPeace.com</a><br /> Lyschel Burket from <a href="https://hoperedefined.org/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">HopeRedefined.org</a><br /> Bonny Burns from <a href="http://strongwives.com/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">StrongWives.com</a></p> <h2><span style="font-size: 18pt;"><a href= "https://hopeforwives.com/donate/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener"><strong>Help Us Help Others</strong></a></span></h2> <h2>Listen now:</h2> <div class="p-rich_text_section">We are continuing to tenderly discussing sexual abuse in marriage and today we are moving into the intense end of the spectrum and will be talking about marital rape.</div> <div class="p-rich_text_section"> </div> <div class="p-rich_text_section">So, again, we invite you to check in with yourself. Are you in a grounded enough place to listen to this conversation? If you are not, please come back another time and listen. If you choose to stay, please take some grounding breaths and hold yourself in compassion and love, knowing Jesus is sitting with you right now.</div> <p>In our last episode we talked about your right to give consent to sexual engagement in marriage. Marriage does not nullify your right to say yes or no to having sex with your husband.</p> <div class="p-rich_text_section">It was only 31 years ago that marital rape became illegal in all 50 states. And today, in 2024, 9 states still have legal loopholes that allow rapist husbands to receive as little as probation as a punishment for this heinous crime. These states are Idaho, Nevada, California, Oklahoma, Mississippi, South Carolina, Virginia, Ohio, and Michigan (<a href= "https://www.newsweek.com/spousal-rape-loophole-map-1892924">https://www.newsweek.com/spousal-rape-loophole-map-1892924</a> ) . I’m talking about the US because that is where we are based. Worldwide, 150 countries have criminalized marital rape and 48 countries it is not criminalized and 6 it is unclear. So, women around the world are still fighting against archaic laws that harken back to when women were considered property. (<a class= "c-link" href= "https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marital_rape_laws_by_country" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" data-stringify-link= "https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marital_rape_laws_by_country" data-sk= "tooltip_parent">https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marital_rape_laws_by_country )</a></div> <h2>We Will be Discussing:</h2> <ol> <li>When does sexual coercion cross the line into marital rape?</li> <li>What would you say to the woman listening who has experienced marital rape?</li> <li>How does Jesus see women, especially those who are abused?</li> <li>What hope can we leave our listeners?</li> </ol> <h2>Scripture references:</h2> <div id="wpv-view-layout-197-TCPID1147" class= "js-wpv-view-layout js-wpv-layout-responsive js-wpv-view-layout-197-TCPID1147" data-viewnumber="197-TCPID1147" data-pagination= "{"id":"197","query":"normal","type":"disabled","effect":"fade","duration":500,"speed":5,"pause_on_hover":"enabled","stop_rollover":"false","cache_pages":"enabled","preload_images":"enabled","preload_pages":"enabled","preload_reach":1,"spinner":"builtin","spinner_image":"https://hopeforwives.com/wp-content/plugins/wp-views/embedded/res/img/ajax-loader.gif","callback_next":"","manage_history":"enabled","has_controls_in_form":"disabled","infinite_tolerance":"0","max_pages":0,"page":1,"base_permalink":"/?p=1147&preview=true&wpv_view_count=197-TCPID1147&wpv_paged=WPV_PAGE_NUM","loop":{"type":"","name":"","data":[],"id":0}}" data-permalink= "/?p=1147&preview=true&wpv_view_count=197-TCPID1147"> <p><a class="rtBibleRef" href= "https://biblia.com/bible/esv/Luke%201.38" data-reference= "Luke 1.38" data-version="esv" data-purpose="bible-reference">Luke 1:38</a></p> </div>
May 28, 2024
<h2>With your co-hostesses:</h2> <p>Pam Blizzard from <a href="https://recoveredpeace.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">RecoveredPeace.com</a><br /> Lyschel Burket from <a href="https://hoperedefined.org/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">HopeRedefined.org</a><br /> Bonny Burns from <a href="http://strongwives.com/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">StrongWives.com</a></p> <h2><span style="font-size: 18pt;"><a href= "https://hopeforwives.com/donate/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener"><strong>Help Us Help Others</strong></a></span></h2> <h2>Listen now:</h2> <div class="p-rich_text_section">The next two episodes we are tenderly discussing topics around sexual abuse in marriage. So, we invite you to assess whether you are in a grounded enough state to listen to this conversation. If you are not, please come back another time and listen. If you choose to stay, please take some grounding breaths and hold yourself in compassion and love, knowing Jesus is sitting with you right now.</div> <div> </div> <div class="p-rich_text_section">It’s hard to consider that sexual abuse can happen in marriage, and yet it does. It is one of the most confusing and distressing things a wife can process. It is a double betrayal.Sexual abuse is not uncommon in marriages where the spouse with problematic sexual behavior has not embraced the reality of their damaging behaviors. Sexual abuse can fall on a spectrum from objectification and light coercion on one end to marital rape on the other end.</div> <div> </div> <div class="p-rich_text_section">Today, we are discussing consent and sexual coercion.</div> <div> </div> <div class="p-rich_text_section">According to The Law Insider website, sexual coercion is defined as the use of unreasonable pressure in an effort to compel another individual to initiate or continue sexual activity against the individual’s will. Sexual coercion wrongfully impairs the other individual’s freedom of will (like using threats, making them pay afterwards with pouting behavior or abandonment for a time, drugs and alcohol to inhibit them from refusing) or impairs their ability to choose whether to engage in sexual activity (an example of this is having sex with someone who is asleep or is so sick or unhealthy and cannot stop what is happening, this to me, borderlines on rape, but that’s for our next episode).</div> <h2>We Will be Discussing:</h2> <ol class="p-rich_text_list p-rich_text_list__ordered" data-stringify-type="ordered-list" data-indent="0" data-border="0"> <li data-stringify-indent="0" data-stringify-border="0">What is consent?</li> <li data-stringify-indent="0" data-stringify-border="0">What are some faulty messages women have received about her right to say no to sex in marriage? (faulty messages from church and culture)</li> <li data-stringify-indent="0" data-stringify-border="0">So thinking back to the faulty message, how have these faulty messages enabled sexual coercion in marriage?</li> <li data-stringify-indent="0" data-stringify-border="0">What is the truth for a woman who has been coerced? What grace can she give herself?</li> <li data-stringify-indent="0" data-stringify-border="0">What hope can we leave our listeners?</li> </ol> <h2>Resources mentioned in this show:</h2> <div id="wpv-view-layout-308-TCPID1145" class= "js-wpv-view-layout js-wpv-layout-responsive js-wpv-view-layout-308-TCPID1145" data-viewnumber="308-TCPID1145" data-pagination= "{"id":"308","query":"normal","type":"disabled","effect":"fade","duration":500,"speed":5,"pause_on_hover":"disabled","stop_rollover":"false","cache_pages":"enabled","preload_images":"enabled","preload_pages":"enabled","preload_reach":1,"spinner":"builtin","spinner_image":"https://hopeforwives.com/wp-content/plugins/wp-views/embedded/res/img/ajax-loader.gif","callback_next":"","manage_history":"enabled","has_controls_in_form":"disabled","infinite_tolerance":"0","max_pages":0,"page":1,"base_permalink":"/?p=1145&preview=true&wpv_view_count=308-TCPID1145&wpv_paged=WPV_PAGE_NUM","loop":{"type":"","name":"","data":[],"id":0}}" data-permalink= "/?p=1145&preview=true&wpv_view_count=308-TCPID1145"> <ul class="wpv-loop js-wpv-loop"> <li> <p><a href="https://amzn.to/3wObWyk" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">How Not to be an A** by Andrew J. Bauman</a><br /> <a href="https://amzn.to/3URm2Xf" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">The Sexually Healthy Man by Andrew J. Bauman</a><br /> <a href="https://andrewjbauman.com/practicing-full-consent/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Practicing Full Consent – blog post by Andrew J. Bauman</a></p> </li> </ul> <ul class="wpv-loop js-wpv-loop"> <li> <p><a href="https://www.authenticintimacy.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Authentic Intimacy ministry with Dr. Juli Slattery</a><br /> <a href="https://amzn.to/3wOcog0" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">Rethinking Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery</a></p> </li> </ul> <ul class="wpv-loop js-wpv-loop"> <li> <p><a href= "https://strongwives.com/sexual-clarity-for-christian-women/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Sexual Clarity for Christian Women – class led by Bonny Logsdon Burns (Strong Wives)</a></p> </li> </ul> </div> <div> </div> <h2>Scripture references:</h2> <div id="wpv-view-layout-197-TCPID1145" class= "js-wpv-view-layout js-wpv-layout-responsive js-wpv-view-layout-197-TCPID1145" data-viewnumber="197-TCPID1145" data-pagination= "{"id":"197","query":"normal","type":"disabled","effect":"fade","duration":500,"speed":5,"pause_on_hover":"enabled","stop_rollover":"false","cache_pages":"enabled","preload_images":"enabled","preload_pages":"enabled","preload_reach":1,"spinner":"builtin","spinner_image":"https://hopeforwives.com/wp-content/plugins/wp-views/embedded/res/img/ajax-loader.gif","callback_next":"","manage_history":"enabled","has_controls_in_form":"disabled","infinite_tolerance":"0","max_pages":0,"page":1,"base_permalink":"/?p=1145&preview=true&wpv_view_count=197-TCPID1145&wpv_paged=WPV_PAGE_NUM","loop":{"type":"","name":"","data":[],"id":0}}" data-permalink= "/?p=1145&preview=true&wpv_view_count=197-TCPID1145"> <p><a class="rtBibleRef" href= "https://biblia.com/bible/esv/1%20Cor%207.4-5" data-reference= "1 Cor 7.4-5" data-version="esv" data-purpose="bible-reference">1 Corinthians 7:4-5</a></p> </div>
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